Why Always Prostitutes ?

'Prostitutes' what comes in your mind after hearing this word, maybe a girl/woman wearing exaggerating make-up, wardrobe and hairdo standing near the railway bridge in dark waiting for her customer. I think this was the image which flashed in front of your eyes,  right now after reading the word 'Prostitute'. Am I right?

Our democracy proudly provides equal rights to each Indian resident but what is the reason it does not include prostitutes?

The irony is we try to accept intangible things like culture, cult and caste but a not a human being because she is a prostitute, she sells her body for merely some money. While talking to one  NGO person, I got to know that government doesn't provide any help to the prostitutes modernly call as a call girl. Only some NGO's are there who work for them but doesn't get any help from the government.

No girl in this world willingly sells her body. There must be some pain, necessity hidden behind her smiling face. Somehow it is the cost of medicine for her old parents, arranging two-time meal for her brother and sister and she don't have any other option because she is not literate.

But what is the reason of the girls who removes her cloth in front of a screen? only for money and fame. No one dares to oppose them because they are from the reputed, well to do families. Obscenity on the screen is also considered as acting skill. Do we give them respect? Yes! we do, So why we make a face after hearing a word 'Prostitute'?

Adult film star Sunny Leone came to India and now the vulgarity is on the peak but the Bollywood is giving her multiple opportunities with respect and motivating other to respect her. Read an excellent article written by +Pooja Kshirsagar on this issue here. Is she is from a backward family? No, but she willingly strips her cloth, sleep with multiple men for money and fame. Why we treat different with a porn actress and a prostitute?

Farah Khan had directed one movie titled as 'Tees Maar khan' which has one signature dialogue 'Tawayaf ki luti izzat bachana aur tees maar khan ko pakdana dono bekaar hai' . Okay, now who the hell give her right to speak about 'Tawayaf's izzat'? She is a director that doesn't mean she has right to speak about Tawayaf's izzat. On the other side she protect her izzat, during one award show Ashutosh Gavarikar said her 'Shut up' here she became wild because it is all about her 'izzat'.

She doesn't care the respect of prostitutes, but she does care herself, just because she is a director and a personality.

Magazines, calendars containing nude photos of girl remarked as an Art of photography, beauty and boldness. This kind of images also help to boost the sell. So why don't you consider prostitutes a person having this kind of adjectives?

Here both the cases are same, the difference is that prostitutes do this in the small room, behind the curtain while latter does this behind the name of curtains such as glamour, boldness, Art, Acting skill, a necessity in movie and beauty. The second type of  curtain is very clever it hides the so-called 'izzat' but first curtain does not!

The children of the prostitutes also bound to live the poor life like her mother, they are unable to get a proper education because there are many social stigmas attached with the profession.

I want to ask all the top notch Bollywood people can you give one movie to a prostitute? The answer will be a 'BIG NO'. But why, Sunny Leone does the same she earn money in the name of Adult film and her money can be counts in millions, but here prostitutes earn barely some thousand money to just feed her hunger.

We have worn an outfit of modernity but from inside we all suffer from narrow, biased, Hippocratic mind. Why not, we can give them a chance to come out from the dark narrow street, room and breathe in the fresh environment? why?

Just think about it !! 

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Much needed discussion

Infertility- is woman sole reason? 

Infertility is the much-discussed topic so today I thought to weave my opinion and perception on this issue.  

Infertility can be simply defined as where a couple fails to conceive baby because of some internal, I mean some biological issue. Generally we called it ‘koi to kami hai’, many a time this ‘Koi kami’ happens to be in a woman only.

When a man woman marries, barely in one or two-year family members start asking them, ‘when you will give us grandchild’. I know people has much emotion attached towards grandchild so they keep asking. But many a time when a couple fails to conceive the whole family start blaming the woman.

I think we all are that much educated that we know a woman is always not a cause of infertility, man can also be the reason may be low or weak sperm count. But unfortunately, the whole responsibility is bang in the name of a woman. She is the reason, of infertility.

II have one friend who is married from the past 5 years. Her marriage was a love marriage. They fail to conceive in spite of numerous check-ups, medicine and what not! So without knowing the feeling of her daughter – in – law the Mother- in –law suggested her son to leave his wife and remarry. She has even forced her by so called promise. Here luckily, my friend’s husband told his mum that he is not going to leave his wife under any circumstances.

Another lady who is married for about 15 years doesn't have a child. Initially, her family tried to blame her for not having kids but later on they got found that the reason is the man, so they kept mum. What an irony! if a woman is a reason she would have shooed away from the house but if the man is reason woman have to advise to do not open her mouth about the ‘Kami’ in her man.

In the ancient era, the king has four to five queen where he would love more to that queen which has a son and least love to those who don’t have a child.  So no wonders! Why this rule is still followed by the people!

There was an elderly couple living in our area and they don’t have child. So once my dad asked to the uncle, ‘’what the reason you didn’t have child?’’  He said, ‘’my wife has some complication in uterus, doctor has advised if you’ll try for child you can lose her and we have to remove the uterus. So I told them I want my wife I don’t want kids.’’ He also said that his mother advised him to leave her and remarry but she chose his wife. This is the beautiful example and I always has best respect for him.

I think we need to educate the older people whose mind is still caged with the traditional practices. There is no shame if you can’t conceive, there could be problem. Yes! We all are not same.  I think the uncle who choose her wife over kids are the best example! If you are suffering from this situation and your in laws are blaming then you can simply tell them that all these things are natural. I am not responsible for this, you need to stand on what is right and what is wrong!

For men, who thinks that low sperm count will question to his masculinity are totally wrong. There are many reason which are responsible for this and it has nothing to do with your macho image.

Many a time woman cut our communication with society because she is always questioned why she is not having kids!  An ideal society is that which accept the weakness of people and motivate them to leave life fullest but India is somehow lacking behind this.

I think we should embrace such people motivate them that your life never ends on this, you have many more amazing things to do. It’s my request to the people out there if you can’t help anyone you don’t have right to pinpoint the pity of someone.  

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Who gave you right to abandon a little life ?

On every next day, we must read news of ‘Newborn baby is dumped/abandon on the stairs of temple’ or most extreme ‘body of a newborn baby found in Nullah/gutter’.  All these news really make me sick. I personally can never hurt an animal or a child. This is the two recent news which makes me write this article, kindly go through with the links.

  http://www.mumbaimirror.com/mumbai/crime/Woman-dumps-premature-baby-in-drain-claims-it-was-stillborn/articleshow/48951745.cms

http://epaper.dnaindia.com/story.aspx?id=82543&boxid=30823&ed_date=2015-09-14&ed_code=820009&ed_page=5

In first news she dumped her premature baby in drain and claims, a baby was stillborn. She already repeated this brutal act in before. In the second news, a baby girl was dumped in the cemetery. These two are the recent case, and I am sure this would not be enough case. There are many newborns are abandon by their parents, but they are somehow not reported by media.

So my point to write this article is why human are so insensitive. Most of the babies are abandon because the couples are unmarried and they want to hide it from the so called society. My aunt told me one incident of her village where someone has dumped the little baby girl in a forest, assuring that some wild animal will going to eat her and they will get rid of this unwanted entity. The little angel was lucky to get noticed by villagers and later a couple from village legally adopted her and now she is living her life fully.

Okay, let’s talk clear! You start loving each other, get physical in spite knowing that this action will lead unwanted pregnancy, but you both enjoyed the moment without scaring the hell society.  The girl got pregnant, but you didn't take any prior action and when she gave birth you start making a plan to get rid of a baby. You have two option either to kill or to dump the little life to that place where he/she will naturally die because of hunger. Why? Because you want to show the society that you did nothing wrong and can live your life normally.

Do you know, when a baby grows in his/her mother’s womb he/she already start to feel the things. There is no other biggest sin then leaving a little precious life to get die because of cold, hunger. I think Animals are better than us, they care most for their children and we call as wisest species on earth do this kind of inhumanity?

If you are mature enough to love each other, then why you lack your knowledge to get any protection during the act. What I feel most devasting is how a girl/woman/lady gives permission to kill her own baby whom she has nurtured in her womb for about 9 months.  But this kind of insensitive people are just like evil they don’t have emotion, just go and ask to a couple who don’t have a child? They go to every temple, church, mosque every doctor, priest to just get one baby who can fulfil their life.  

Just one request If you have the power to give birth one life then you don’t have rights to take life of a little life…… mind it there is no other biggest sin than this !!!!! 

Life is the blessing of god please don't grab it from the newborns..., please !!!! They are the precious gift from god !!!!! Please take care of them !!!!

Another women day is coming.....

Tribute to women’s day

There was a girl, who was living her life fully, Has a loving partner, supporting parents … Has a dream like the other Indian girl…… AND suddenly everything ends….!! Everything …she lost everything… her life… her love ones… her dream…!!! And who are responsible for this a group of six pervert men …. They were given so much pain and trauma to an innocent girl …. We always say ‘’at least my dead should be painless’’… but can she got this? Nope …. She got unmeasured physical and mental pain which we can’t even imagine. Recently filmmaker Leslee Udwin has interviewed one of the culprits among six.... And what He said, “YE TO SAB KARTE HAI … TO HUME FANSI KI SAJA Q?” (Everyone does this entire thing… So why should we are only going to hang) He said it very normally that whatever he did was innocence and It was his right to rape a girl.

Today I was just getting ready to the office, combing my hair…. and my dad was sitting with today’s fresh cheap Hindi newspaper (As most of the Indian thinks Hindi newspaper are) … He pointed one of the news printed on a front page that people beaten, hanged one rape victim… At Naka ( the main point of any road)…. I was in a hurry and just read heading of that news…. And said,  “It’s somehow good, but I’ll not going to support this act because there is no one beyond the law. If we are going to execute culprits in such a manner then what is a difference between a Taliban Militants and us.” And my surprise my dad interrupted me saying that “Rape karne walo ke sath aisa hi hona chahiye tabhi ye log ko samjh me ayega… Kanoon se chalengena to 10 sal bit jayegafaisla hone me.” (All the rape victim should be treated like this and then they will going to stop this act… If we go with the law then it will take around 10 years to get justice. )  I can see the anger on his face… Before this, he never shared this kind of news with me due to Father-daughter relation but today he insists me to look at this news.  I was simply …astonished thinking If my dad has this kind of reaction… then think what happens with the father of that girls who was suffered from rape... Acid…? Now I can imagine… Damn … I can imagine… Those bunch of men mashed a little angel of her dearest father…

My father always supported me … either my decision of education and cloth wearing. He never interrupted me. During my childhood, He was very orthodox and as I grown he changed his perception and flow with the modern time. There was another incident occurred with me.  Around a month ago I was coming from a market with hands full of the bag of vegetable.There was one tapri (shop of betel, tobacco) recently opened in my area.  I was just going to my way and suddenly a car came near to me (the car was one of the richest people of my area) and in front of me a bhai-type person of my area was standing. The car on my left side and the bhai-type person on the front side and no way to go on right side having a hand full of vegetable bags. I got disturbed and said “Oh! Shit” and tried to go back from the car then the bhai type banda starts making fun of me. I shouted at him and he get so aggressive because I scold him in front of many people. He was about to slap me, but I just went to my home thinking not to make matter so big. At night, I told my papa about this unexpected event He said, “You had the mobile? Why didn’t you call the police? If he again says you anything then just go to police station and lodge a complaint. No need to be afraid to all these bhai.” I was not expecting this from my father, I thought he’ll going to say that No need to go alone in a market but what he said was just beyond my expectation.

From these two incidents, I really gained the courage to share this kind of situation with my father. Because my father shown his belief in me. If every daughter gets this kind of encouragement from their parents then why a girl will never share eve-teasing and other unexpected events with her father.

To the conclusion, I just want to appeal to all the father of their beautiful daughter come and make your girl more comfortable talking to you… do not tell them that they are responsible for all this events… tell them that you are always with her  … and no need to be afraid of such people.  Then at least daughters can share this kind of unusual event from his father and both can make out right decision before the things become worse.

This is my tribute to women’s day…. Dedicating to all the parents especially daddy’s of the beautiful angel.  

Prayer to God...

What is harassment....??  a way to treat women or a way to degrade confidence of women. I don't know how to describe harassment. Because every other day harassment comes with different idea.. different faces and then suddenly become sexual harassment.

I don' t thing their must be only one type of harassment because every other thing which attacks your mind, soul & body is Harassment. Every women in this world suffers from harassment. Either mentally or physically. I don't know how to stop them how to change their mind... especially mindset..!!  but its a nightmare for all the women on earth with Hippocratic face of harassment and men. 

workplace harassment .. eve teasing.. rape all that things are a way to degrade women.. i will definitely blame mindset of men in our society and the pattern of patriarchal system. Due to this the things are now becoming worse in spite of  women empowerment.

Another thing is that in our society women are just considered a flesh of their ringmaster i.e. Husband.. I don't know why this is not yet changed in the era of 21st century. the Delhi rape case, tandoor kand, Madhumita case, Fiza case are just a warning for all of us. 

We always make debate of women reservation, women empowerment, women security but all the things are just in vain... There is no need to make such a stupid kind of debate. only the thing we must have to do is change the thinking pattern of our people ..Men . At the time when this will happen then all the women will automatically feel secure.. empowered. 

But it is possible .. or not..?? No guarantee because what I am watching in the era of 21st century.. is horrible.. then how can I say my next generation will not face the same thing... God knows.. Until miracle will happen these things will never changed ... not at least in my life.. I am sure about this but I will pray for my coming generation that miracle should happen.. As soon as possible..  

new measurement for women safety

SC decisions will really work...?

Delhi gang rape case made government aware on the women centric issue. People are also becoming aware to raise voice against molestation, rape and eve-teasing. Rally made by public and women safety campaign done by media peoples are working on public as they are now raising voice against all this crime. The other thing which came out from all these Delhi happening is that now every girl and women knows their rights which they care about previously. On 4th January, Hindustan times published an article in their campaign "Make city safer for women". In this article they are talked about new rules and regulation passed by the Supreme Court to protect the women. Here they have given the rules and the implementation of that rules.

Install CCTV cameras in public places

There will be a direction to state governments and union territories to install CCTVs in strategic positions which itself would be a deterrent and if detected, the offender could be caught.

CCTV can be a great help to reduce such kind of incident. CCTV should be installing specially on railway platform, Subways, Skywalk. But installing CCTV is not a primary thing to do but to maintain its condition is more important as most of the CCTV is not working due to the ignorance of the authority.

Authorities to take charge

Persons in charge of educational institutions, places of worship, cinema theatres, railway stations and bus stands have to take steps they deem fit to prevent eve-teasing within their precincts and, on a complaint being made, they must pass on the information to the nearest police station, or the women's help centre.  

It’s a good way to reduce the eve- teasing in crowded places.

Safer public transport

Where either passengers or persons in-charge of a public service vehicle indulge in eve-teasing, the crew shall, on a complaint made by the aggrieved person, take the vehicle to the nearest police station and give information to the police. Failure to do so should lead to cancellation of the permit to ply.

This initiative will really help to stop the inconvenience on the local transport like buses. In trains the coach is different for ladies and gents but in buses there is no chance to get rid of eve- teasing so this decision will really help to women.

Help lines needed for women

 State governments and union territories are directed to establish a women's helpline in various cities and towns, so as to curb eve-teasing within three months.

 Help lines may help to get instant help from authorities but the main issue with help line is that it never works on time. So police personnel should such kind of help line which can work 24*7.

Boards against harassment

Suitable boards cautioning against eve-teasing should be exhibited in the precincts of educational institutions, bus stands, railway stations, cinema theatres, parties, beaches, public service vehicles, places of worship, etc.

Eve- teasing is still not treating as crime so such kind of initiative will really help to working girls and women.

 Passers-by must intervene

Responsibility is also on passers-by who should report such incidents to the nearest police station or to the women’s helpline.

It is great to put a responsibility on the shoulder of passers because no one wants to involve in legal things.

State govts should step in

State governments and union territories should take effective measures by issuing suitable instructions to authorities including district collectors and the superintendent of police on effective and proper measures to curb eve-teasing.

The protecting responsibility is in the hands of the state government. So it good that state government is taking measures.

 

 

  

Cases of Knife attacking...

Acid, Knife, Attack 

            In last one month I read two cases where boy or husband tried to kill their girlfriend and wife attacking with knife. One case was happened in Dadar where husband wants to kill his wife but mistakenly he injured to other girl and the other case where a college boy attack on his girlfriend and after he killed himself. The case happening in such a level that it is become a threat to society if a girl will refuse someone then he can attack you with knife and Acid. All these things have become the tool for men's to take revenge from girl who refuses their order.

          Throwing Acid is one of the "National" tools of men to spoil any girl's life. India has some of the big cases regarding to this entire thing. One case of girl is where boys from her village thrown acid on her face because she raise the voice against the boys. Other case happened in Thane where one boy literally attacked to his girlfriend publicly because she refused to marry him. All of these cases are the evidence that men's can never want to defeat from a girl and refused by them.

          Who is responsible for all this? The answer is the upbringing of boys and the Indian patriarchal system. They doesn't want to refused by anyone specially a Girl who are treat as weaker part of society mentally as well physically. Some will say that media and movies are responsible for this where if a girl refuse a proposal of boy they will kidnapped and raped her. Yeah! Its true Media is portraying women weaker but when we talked about Hollywood movies then we get to know that their women are portrayed as bold and strong. Even the movies are present Heroine as Hero of the movie. Movies like Resident Evil, Salt and Cat women are the movie where heroine is the hero. Indian cinema is also taking its steps to such kind of movies like movie "Heroine", "Kahani". One thing I really liked in movie "Ek the tiger" that there Katrina has given the equality with salman in the action scenes.

       Here I gave example of movie which represent the two context of media from different country as per the women are concern. The whole idea of telling this is India has to change its patriarchal system.       

Media campaign for Delhi girl......

Role of media in Delhi Happenings

             Delhi Gang rape case raises the voice of people against rape and sexual harassment of women in country. Media which is known as spoke person of public has represented it many ways. This case is come into so lime light just because of media gave lots of importance to this news. Every paper and news channel presents the situation and seriousness very well. What I have watched in these 2 weeks in media is given below.

               It was such a big case and suddenly media paid lots of attention to rape cases. Every paper has started its campaign for women safety. Hindustan times is "make city safe for women" DNA with "Enough is enough" and Times of India named "Women under attack". Every news paper is trying to best to put the every aspect of Delhi case. News channels are also presenting debate of experts. Most of the newspaper is providing column for women to share their bad experience on sexual harassment in city. You can mail and share it on Facebook page. Campaign has one logo referring their whole idea of women safety. But the shameful situation came on that when media forgets their basic ethic. One news channel has on aired a Facebook profile of one girl showing that it's a profile of victim and one newspaper reveals the name of her brother. All this thing really shows that media is become only a competitors.Is there any need of media to show the profile page of victim? or to reveal name of her brother?

              Making such kind of issue is burning is good for the society but after that competition makes media so blind that they just only focus to win. From these two weeks every rape case is carrying front or second page but if something biggest happens then this news will just go into briefs.        

   

"Indian Ideology for Women"

"Do not treat us Goddess"

         India is the country where women are worshiped as "Goddess" in name of Durga, Laxmi, Sarswati. There are lots of similar words describing women like Damini,Vanita and so more.But somehow all this things remains only in books and Granthas. The reality is just opposite of this. The gang rape happened in Delhi is the current reality of all this bol bachan reciting in Grantha and our religious book. In India gang rape or rape is happening in every minute and Delhi case was so bad so it came into lime light.But it good that some where people are raising their voice against this crime which can be first step to fight of such kind of cases. I have analyzed and made point to how it happens? the reason? and Finally Solution:-

• What is the Reason? Who are responsible for this?  

       First of all we all know that our Indian context and the inequality between men and women lead all this kind of crime in country.Family upbringing also plays a vital role in this thing. Family gives more importance to boy compare to a girl. Sharm aur haya  ladki ka gahna hai. and lots of other ready made dialogue is made only for Girls. If i will start from beginning our ancestors are equally responsible for all this mentality of people. In older days King has four to five wives. all this thing portray women as only sex object. The mentality of men in our country is really very narrow in spite they will become Doctor and engineer. but the thinking will remain same as one illiterate villager.The girl was brutally raped and killed by them. Just a pleasure of minutes takes a life from one talented girl. Here, yes they are responsible for this crime but directly or indirectly every citizen of India is responsible to this. In Mahabharata  Draupadi cheer haran, In Ramayana Agni pariksha of Seeta All this thing is not responsible for men's mentality? 

• What will the Solution? 

         Every girl of this country is somehow molest and harrased by someone somewhere. It's obvious that Law should be strong and family support to the girl is a best medicine for girls.and in last every girl must have art of self defense. If anyone want to change the mentality of men's the initiative will take by the family member do not make your too shy and the flower make them rose with horn. I had watched one of the demonstrators showing poster of "Do not treat us Goddess but just treat as a human Being". It shows that women never want that you should give respect as Goddess just give respect as normal human being.