Friday 23 October 2015

Why Always Prostitutes ?

'Prostitutes' what comes in your mind after hearing this word, maybe a girl/woman wearing exaggerating make-up, wardrobe and hairdo standing near the railway bridge in dark waiting for her customer. I think this was the image which flashed in front of your eyes,  right now after reading the word 'Prostitute'. Am I right?

Our democracy proudly provides equal rights to each Indian resident but what is the reason it does not include prostitutes?

The irony is we try to accept intangible things like culture, cult and caste but a not a human being because she is a prostitute, she sells her body for merely some money. While talking to one  NGO person, I got to know that government doesn't provide any help to the prostitutes modernly call as a call girl. Only some NGO's are there who work for them but doesn't get any help from the government.

No girl in this world willingly sells her body. There must be some pain, necessity hidden behind her smiling face. Somehow it is the cost of medicine for her old parents, arranging two-time meal for her brother and sister and she don't have any other option because she is not literate.

But what is the reason of the girls who removes her cloth in front of a screen? only for money and fame. No one dares to oppose them because they are from the reputed, well to do families. Obscenity on the screen is also considered as acting skill. Do we give them respect? Yes! we do, So why we make a face after hearing a word 'Prostitute'?

Adult film star Sunny Leone came to India and now the vulgarity is on the peak but the Bollywood is giving her multiple opportunities with respect and motivating other to respect her. Read an excellent article written by +Pooja Kshirsagar on this issue here. Is she is from a backward family? No, but she willingly strips her cloth, sleep with multiple men for money and fame. Why we treat different with a porn actress and a prostitute?

Farah Khan had directed one movie titled as 'Tees Maar khan' which has one signature dialogue 'Tawayaf ki luti izzat bachana aur tees maar khan ko pakdana dono bekaar hai' . Okay, now who the hell give her right to speak about 'Tawayaf's izzat'? She is a director that doesn't mean she has right to speak about Tawayaf's izzat. On the other side she protect her izzat, during one award show Ashutosh Gavarikar said her 'Shut up' here she became wild because it is all about her 'izzat'.

She doesn't care the respect of prostitutes, but she does care herself, just because she is a director and a personality.

Magazines, calendars containing nude photos of girl remarked as an Art of photography, beauty and boldness. This kind of images also help to boost the sell. So why don't you consider prostitutes a person having this kind of adjectives?

Here both the cases are same, the difference is that prostitutes do this in the small room, behind the curtain while latter does this behind the name of curtains such as glamour, boldness, Art, Acting skill, a necessity in movie and beauty. The second type of  curtain is very clever it hides the so-called 'izzat' but first curtain does not!

The children of the prostitutes also bound to live the poor life like her mother, they are unable to get a proper education because there are many social stigmas attached with the profession.

I want to ask all the top notch Bollywood people can you give one movie to a prostitute? The answer will be a 'BIG NO'. But why, Sunny Leone does the same she earn money in the name of Adult film and her money can be counts in millions, but here prostitutes earn barely some thousand money to just feed her hunger.

We have worn an outfit of modernity but from inside we all suffer from narrow, biased, Hippocratic mind. Why not, we can give them a chance to come out from the dark narrow street, room and breathe in the fresh environment? why?

Just think about it !! 

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Wednesday 7 October 2015

Happy Daughter days !!!

True daughters I came across  

I know I am little late to wish Daughters day, but I am sure there is no need of a specific day to appreciate your daughter! Am I right?

As usual I was travelling from the local train to reach my office. I was with my friend and he got a call from one of lady advocate. He ends up his talk and told me that ‘I appreciate this lady, she is a role model for everyone.’ I asked the reason he said that ‘her age is somewhere around 40 and she is still not married. You know why because of her parents, her parents are bedridden. She thinks if she will get married she will not able to help her parents. She has sacrificed everything in her life just for her parents. We all need to learn from her.’’ I was just spellbound, I didn't utter a single word and sinks in my own thought. Sacrificing your happiness, your married life and enjoyment is not a game. People from the holy heart are able to do this!

Another lady who is a friend of my colleague has the same story. She is now aged above sixty and she is not married because there was no one to take care of her sick mother. I've met that lady, I can see a kind of satisfaction, dedication and completeness in her eyes which we don’t have.

I've only these two examples, but I am sure there are many more daughters who have put their parents first above anything. Some say, only lucky people are blessed by a daughter. I am also a daughter and I always get feeling that if I am doing everything right for my parents or not. I really fear for the day when I have to leave my parents. I fear that if they will be al-right? If they will be happy?

On this era when numbers of old age home are drastically increasing these daughters really makes us proud, teach us, motivate us and remind us our duty towards the persons who are our priority! These daughters are the lesson for those people who think daughters can't do anything and kill them in womb.

I Heartily salute these true daughters!

Do you know any of daughter who put their parents first? Do share with me! 


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Tuesday 6 October 2015

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Monday 5 October 2015

Much needed discussion

Infertility- is woman sole reason? 

Infertility is the much-discussed topic so today I thought to weave my opinion and perception on this issue.  

Infertility can be simply defined as where a couple fails to conceive baby because of some internal, I mean some biological issue. Generally we called it ‘koi to kami hai’, many a time this ‘Koi kami’ happens to be in a woman only.

When a man woman marries, barely in one or two-year family members start asking them, ‘when you will give us grandchild’. I know people has much emotion attached towards grandchild so they keep asking. But many a time when a couple fails to conceive the whole family start blaming the woman.
I think we all are that much educated that we know a woman is always not a cause of infertility, man can also be the reason may be low or weak sperm count. But unfortunately, the whole responsibility is bang in the name of a woman. She is the reason, of infertility.

II have one friend who is married from the past 5 years. Her marriage was a love marriage. They fail to conceive in spite of numerous check-ups, medicine and what not! So without knowing the feeling of her daughter – in – law the Mother- in –law suggested her son to leave his wife and remarry. She has even forced her by so called promise. Here luckily, my friend’s husband told his mum that he is not going to leave his wife under any circumstances.

Another lady who is married for about 15 years doesn't have a child. Initially, her family tried to blame her for not having kids but later on they got found that the reason is the man, so they kept mum. What an irony! if a woman is a reason she would have shooed away from the house but if the man is reason woman have to advise to do not open her mouth about the ‘Kami’ in her man.

In the ancient era, the king has four to five queen where he would love more to that queen which has a son and least love to those who don’t have a child.  So no wonders! Why this rule is still followed by the people!

There was an elderly couple living in our area and they don’t have child. So once my dad asked to the uncle, ‘’what the reason you didn’t have child?’’  He said, ‘’my wife has some complication in uterus, doctor has advised if you’ll try for child you can lose her and we have to remove the uterus. So I told them I want my wife I don’t want kids.’’ He also said that his mother advised him to leave her and remarry but she chose his wife. This is the beautiful example and I always has best respect for him.

I think we need to educate the older people whose mind is still caged with the traditional practices. There is no shame if you can’t conceive, there could be problem. Yes! We all are not same.  I think the uncle who choose her wife over kids are the best example! If you are suffering from this situation and your in laws are blaming then you can simply tell them that all these things are natural. I am not responsible for this, you need to stand on what is right and what is wrong!

For men, who thinks that low sperm count will question to his masculinity are totally wrong. There are many reason which are responsible for this and it has nothing to do with your macho image.

Many a time woman cut our communication with society because she is always questioned why she is not having kids!  An ideal society is that which accept the weakness of people and motivate them to leave life fullest but India is somehow lacking behind this.

I think we should embrace such people motivate them that your life never ends on this, you have many more amazing things to do. It’s my request to the people out there if you can’t help anyone you don’t have right to pinpoint the pity of someone.  

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Friday 2 October 2015

Rumour or conspiracy ?

Beef ban and Murder? 

You must have read the news of that a 50-year man in Dadri, UP got beaten up by the mob who think his family has consumed cow’s meat, in case if you are not aware from the case you may read it here.

From  the first day of the beef ban, there are many controversies are going on. Either it’s a man caught trafficking beef meat, losing their income at the mutton shop or banning beef on the auspicious days of Jain’s festival ‘Paryushan’.

In my personal opinion, not beef but slaughtering of each animal should be ban. But Yes! I know it could not be possible because there are many people who love eating meat. In fact, this is another topic to discuss!!

The death of 50-year-old man, Ikhlaq is really sad. Without knowing the actual reason mob attacked him and family.  There are many things coming up with this issue. His family claims that villagers use to say them Pakistani and gradually they took the revenge. The priest in temple claims that he was forced to announce that cow was a slaughter.  The cow is sacred for us, yes we worship them! But as we are living in a secular country we should respect each other’s religion. This is a matter of understanding and maturity, not a conflict. One should have a freedom to live as per their respective religion, after all it’s a secular country.

Even if they have consumed the cow’s meat, mob and people do not have any right to punish him. They should have contact to the authorities, the meat should have been checked and after that court decides to punish them or not. But I am sure this event will lead to various disturbance in the country.

Although I can’t judge this unfortunate event, there is a huge smell of POLITICAL conspiracy. The older people living in Dadri tells that ‘’ In this village the bond of Hindu- Muslim was very nice we use to support each other’s religion, each other’s culture. The youth should have developed the ability to see what is wrong and what is right? ‘’

Why are we human becoming so insensitive? Beating a 50-year-old man till death is a humanity? He was not eating cow's meat so, can you make him return? The people have murdered a man who was a father, son and husband.

 If you are the one who can do justice then what is the use of the law? This is a wake up to all of us! Open up your eyes, open up senses and most important open up your humanity! We are not a god to judge people. Just live and let live other!

Thursday 1 October 2015

Beggary- A profession or compulsion ?

Beggar, are they really? 

What do you feel when you see any beggar on the road, railway station or near the temple gate? You may feel like, how poor they are! Why is almighty god doing this to them? And you give some 1 or 2 rupees chillar and you move on to your work. But my point to write this article is are they really beggar or they are fooling us by showing their injured, dressed hand and feet?

I started work in somewhere in December 2013. And these two years one thing I neatly observed that beggars are not REALLY beggar!

Every day I have to struggle to reach the station, which is good 25 minutes away from home. In the midway, there is a tunnel (land owned by railway authorities for loco shed) and a temple of god Shani. I see approximately 10 beggars during my journey to the station. First four is near the temple and other 6 at the railway occupied land.

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When I started working, I felt very bad for them, especially a lady, aged  45 to 50 year who has wound on hand and foot. I use to give her some chillar every day. This happens almost for three months. So one day I thought! Why her hand and feet has always wound, I thought three months span is good to heal wound, but why her wound never heals? When I look closer to her bandage wrap hand and feet then, I realize she is fit and she use to wrap dirty, bloody bandage to just astray the people. At that time, I was feeling like to slap her hard but I can’t. The funny thing is she still sit there to beg and she still has the same wound. I don’t think god has ever made such kind of wound which need 2.50 years to heal.

Another old woman and man use to beg there, both of them has no fingers on feet. So they literally keep their feet like you can see the wound. Okay! I give them money sometimes just because they are old and not because they are showing their wound.

From the last 2.50 years, the things which I've noted is that they all are a group and they use to sit as per their shift. In the one month, the woman does not beg for 15 days on this place (must be some other place).

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One more incident occurred with me in the local train. The girl, perhaps 17 to 18-year-old was holding a newborn baby. I mean literally a ‘newborn baby’ having pink, layering skin. In my opinion, the baby seems to be born 4 to 5 hours ago. She was holding the baby in the dirty cloth and accompanied a little boy aged 5 years. She was begging, and the small innocent boy was also begging. The boy was looking like he has not slept from the last few days and he was falling on the seat due to sleep. So when the girl saw her sleeping she came and gave a tight slap to his chubby cheeks and like a robot the boy start begging again. I told her why you slapped him? But she simply ignore me and get off from the train.

In my opinion, the little boy may have been tortured. I feel my tears rolled down! Why people do this? Why they get doing all these things? Just money!

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I've read somewhere that many of the beggars earns more than us! They also own flats and car. We all know there are many gangs who abduct child just to make them beg. They amputate their body part to make them look like handicapped and so that we can be pleased to give them money. They use newborn child on the daily rent merely 10 or 20 rupees!

I know there are many needy people who are waiting for our help, but we need to develop the ability who is actual and who is fake? And please never give money to a child NEVER!!! Instead, you can feed them. We all know this kind of illegal work will never be happen without the consent of police and authorities! I think we all need to change this and these will not going to happen with one person. We all have to refuse giving alms to the beggars. So gradually, this begging empire will collapse.

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