Impact of social media, let's evaluate

Impact of social media, let's evaluate 

When we are talking about social media the first thought come in our mind is facebook, twitter, Whatsapp. I am just mentioning these three social media tools here but there are many other social media which are impacting our life. 

At that time when we didn't have a mobile phone we use telephones after that mobile phone started to come and then the things are still developing. Best quality of the camera in phones, music system in phones then internet. 

Simultaneously, the idea of getting closer to the people was also on the move and finally facebook, twitter, WhatsApp has become an integral part of our life. As every coin has two aspects same applies to the social media too. Here I am listing some pros and cons of social media on our life. 

Pros: 

1) Instant connection:

I still remember the day when my mom uses to walk far away to find the STD booth to call her mother. She has to maintain the time and money so she talks to her mom only for 3 to 4 minutes. But now when everybody has mobile phones with affordable price tag. Now she can see her mom while talking. All credit goes to video calling.

2) Better communication: 

Social media has revamped our communication now we can connect with everyone without any hassle and problem. 

3) Marketing:

Social media has become one of the easiest platforms to market one's service and product with minimal cost. You tube has various videos to explain about the product, Blogosphere is another way of marketing. The social media has really made advertising an easy task.

Cons: 

1) The importance of relation decreased: 

Even though social media has helped everyone to connect with the far-flung friends but while connecting with them we tend to forget our REAL friends and family.

2) No privacy:

Today every person love to share their life event on social media. But one has to be careful while sharing such kind of privacy online. There are many cases has reported where one have to face consequences. 

3) Cyber bulling:

Online harassment has become the frequent drawback. The photos which you have posted on the internet can become the tool to harass. 

4) Time-consuming with no productivity:

Frankly speaking, on one hand when social media is helping to save our time, on the other hand they consume our time. Really chatting, forwarding useless stuff to everyone is just time confusing process. There is nothing so productive about this. 

Verdict:

Social media is helping us to gain many things in life but in the context, they are spoiling our life. As the excess of anything is harmful so the same rule applies to social media. One has to be careful while sharing their personal stuff online. Whereas social media is become the one step ahead in the communication. So choose your side and move on that. 

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The #madeofgreat family who reunited me with my mummy

Human is a social animal, they are the wisest species on earth. We are also animal but just one thing separate us from animals i.e.. humanity. We have witnessed many of the encounters where questions on humanity were raised, but I can proudly say that there are many other people still on this earth who are not less than a god for the needy people. 

Life is a journey of success, learning, falling, failure and most important helping each other. We meet numerous people during our life span who teach something to us either a little one but they all are our part of life and they are not less than a god messenger. There are many people who are inspiration for me who taught many things to me, my first mentor was my granddad who never feared to struggle and because of this he earned a great life.

I believe I would not have been here and lost from my family years ago until I met with one family.

I was very calm and obedient in my childhood, I never troubled my family member. Just like other children I too love my grandparent’s home (village), my nani (Grandma) was my best friend. So this instance occurred when I was with my mummy to attend a wedding in another village. As it was wedding in the home so there was lots of chaos and one needed to go neighbor’s home to bathe and wash clothes, so my mummy also went there. Being a 4-year-old, I also accompanied my mummy. She first bathed me and then engaged with further bathing and washing process. I was simply seated there and suddenly someone came and said that ‘your nani has come’ I become so happy and urged my mummy to leave me there but as she was busy she brushed it off. So I told my mum ‘I am going’ and stepped out from home. It was just 2-minute distance from this home to wedding home so my mummy thought I can go.

I was new there and was not familiar with the trail so mistakenly I took the wrong street and went to some other village. I still remember that I was searching here and there and was calling my mummy and nani…. But didn't find them. As I was a child soon I started to cry. People were looking at me, but no one bothered to ask me or help me. There was one big river and I was walking on the edge of a river I was about to fall in a river but then suddenly one woman catch me and consoled me. As I was crying and afraid, she took me to her home and asked my address and my parent’s name. As I said I was new there so I didn't know the address and my mummy was also new there so nobody knew her name. So I was not able to provide them any detail.

Her whole family was very sweet they provide me water and food and were constantly asking me to remember anything which can lead them to identify the home. They also have the wedding in a home and after some time I recollect and said that ‘My home also have wed ceremony’.  Soon they send people from the village to track down if any girl is missing from any home who have marriage ceremony.

I think after some hours one aunt from my home came and picked me from them and heartily thanked that family for taking care of me. When I reach home my mummy was out of her sanity and was crying a lot. When she saw me she ran and hugged me tight. After so many years, I still have a memory of that particular event.

I still get goosebumps by thinking that if that family would not have rescue me I would have drown in the river or would catched up by some goons. I still remember the blurry face of that lady and home. They were god for me and their home was the temple for me. I don’t know if I will meet that family anyway, but I always thanked them from my heart who gave me a new life and reunited me with my mummy.

Even this event occurred around 18 years ago, but it has left a huge impact on my life. I believe helping people, I believe that god is there. Our little help can rescue someone from entering the biggest problem. I still pray for that family for wellness and success. I strongly believe that ‘This world is a big family and we need to help each other.’ I have very soft corner for children and I always keep an eye on the street children, maybe some of them would have also lost the way of home just like me!!!  

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The Media - A fourth pillar of democracy or a Corporate hub ?

What is the definition of media? This was the first question we were asked during our first lecture in BMM (Bachelor of Mass Media) course. At that time, I give the answer that Media is a channel of communication between mass and the system (read it was just the first lecture, and I was not aware with media concept in deep). My department head agreed with my definition. Later we learned that 'Media is a fourth pillar of democracy' and 'Media is important aspect of society, Media is watchdog.' 

I was very happy to learn all these things that media is the only branch which is so much important for the development of any country. As we all know there are many types of media but here I am going to talk about News media. 

During our childhood, we have only one channel that was Doordarshan and when news comes in between our TV show we feel like to shut the TV. Although I really didn't remember the type of news content Doordarshan was showing at earlier but I did compare it with recent Doordarshan with private channel here.

So let's move to the current era, where we have news channels growing like a grass. Every other day one new news channel emerges and this number is just increasing day by day. They have the cut-throat competition to earn TRP and earn a monetary profit. 

I used to watch news very patiently after my tenth and wanted to make a career in Media industry specially in News channel. Slowly news channel starts showing some horror story, search of haunted places and many more..... Viewers who was bored with the traditional type of news were happy to see such kind of interesting or can say fake news. I think the credit of these yellow journalism goes to India TV, founded by Rajat Sharma in the year 2004. 

I still remember one news (not really a news) where, the background voice keep saying.... kya aap in bhootah tasveeron ka rahsya janana chahte hai, agar haan to remote ko hath na lagaye ..... we really didn't touch the remote and waited for 5 good minutes to know the secrets but alas! they proceed the same visuals with some different story line. We feel like we are cheated. But you know this sensationalism of  news succeed India TV and Rajat Sharma. I still find India TV a piece of garbage.

The sad thing is slowly all the other excellent news channel embrace this concept and now news media is just a piece of fun or satire so I've stopped watching the news channel. 

Media now interest to cover that news which can give them highest TRP. Just like Indrani case, really Media has given more than 50% coverage to Indrani Mukhrajea case, Where the murder of Kalburgi was piled up under these waste news. 

Apparently media is under the influence of corporates or political parties and the news reports are 100% biased. I really hate when media show news of ISIS, Really media is the sole reason of popularity of ISIS and it's motive. They should stop showing the news related to them. The recent award return scenario,  murder in Dadri was really a part of sensationalism. We don't need this type of media. 

Media is a tool who have the responsibility to present an unbiased news to the viewer who have the freedom to form an opinion. 

I can understand to run every organization one need a good sum of money and media is one of them. So gradually media is becoming a corporate hub not a fourth pillar of democracy. 

The viewer need to be sensible and rational to judge any news, because media is showing you which you don't need and which fills their pockets. 

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Why Always Prostitutes ?

'Prostitutes' what comes in your mind after hearing this word, maybe a girl/woman wearing exaggerating make-up, wardrobe and hairdo standing near the railway bridge in dark waiting for her customer. I think this was the image which flashed in front of your eyes,  right now after reading the word 'Prostitute'. Am I right?

Our democracy proudly provides equal rights to each Indian resident but what is the reason it does not include prostitutes?

The irony is we try to accept intangible things like culture, cult and caste but a not a human being because she is a prostitute, she sells her body for merely some money. While talking to one  NGO person, I got to know that government doesn't provide any help to the prostitutes modernly call as a call girl. Only some NGO's are there who work for them but doesn't get any help from the government.

No girl in this world willingly sells her body. There must be some pain, necessity hidden behind her smiling face. Somehow it is the cost of medicine for her old parents, arranging two-time meal for her brother and sister and she don't have any other option because she is not literate.

But what is the reason of the girls who removes her cloth in front of a screen? only for money and fame. No one dares to oppose them because they are from the reputed, well to do families. Obscenity on the screen is also considered as acting skill. Do we give them respect? Yes! we do, So why we make a face after hearing a word 'Prostitute'?

Adult film star Sunny Leone came to India and now the vulgarity is on the peak but the Bollywood is giving her multiple opportunities with respect and motivating other to respect her. Read an excellent article written by +Pooja Kshirsagar on this issue here. Is she is from a backward family? No, but she willingly strips her cloth, sleep with multiple men for money and fame. Why we treat different with a porn actress and a prostitute?

Farah Khan had directed one movie titled as 'Tees Maar khan' which has one signature dialogue 'Tawayaf ki luti izzat bachana aur tees maar khan ko pakdana dono bekaar hai' . Okay, now who the hell give her right to speak about 'Tawayaf's izzat'? She is a director that doesn't mean she has right to speak about Tawayaf's izzat. On the other side she protect her izzat, during one award show Ashutosh Gavarikar said her 'Shut up' here she became wild because it is all about her 'izzat'.

She doesn't care the respect of prostitutes, but she does care herself, just because she is a director and a personality.

Magazines, calendars containing nude photos of girl remarked as an Art of photography, beauty and boldness. This kind of images also help to boost the sell. So why don't you consider prostitutes a person having this kind of adjectives?

Here both the cases are same, the difference is that prostitutes do this in the small room, behind the curtain while latter does this behind the name of curtains such as glamour, boldness, Art, Acting skill, a necessity in movie and beauty. The second type of  curtain is very clever it hides the so-called 'izzat' but first curtain does not!

The children of the prostitutes also bound to live the poor life like her mother, they are unable to get a proper education because there are many social stigmas attached with the profession.

I want to ask all the top notch Bollywood people can you give one movie to a prostitute? The answer will be a 'BIG NO'. But why, Sunny Leone does the same she earn money in the name of Adult film and her money can be counts in millions, but here prostitutes earn barely some thousand money to just feed her hunger.

We have worn an outfit of modernity but from inside we all suffer from narrow, biased, Hippocratic mind. Why not, we can give them a chance to come out from the dark narrow street, room and breathe in the fresh environment? why?

Just think about it !! 

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Happy Daughter days !!!

True daughters I came across  

I know I am little late to wish Daughters day, but I am sure there is no need of a specific day to appreciate your daughter! Am I right?

As usual I was travelling from the local train to reach my office. I was with my friend and he got a call from one of lady advocate. He ends up his talk and told me that ‘I appreciate this lady, she is a role model for everyone.’ I asked the reason he said that ‘her age is somewhere around 40 and she is still not married. You know why because of her parents, her parents are bedridden. She thinks if she will get married she will not able to help her parents. She has sacrificed everything in her life just for her parents. We all need to learn from her.’’ I was just spellbound, I didn't utter a single word and sinks in my own thought. Sacrificing your happiness, your married life and enjoyment is not a game. People from the holy heart are able to do this!

Another lady who is a friend of my colleague has the same story. She is now aged above sixty and she is not married because there was no one to take care of her sick mother. I've met that lady, I can see a kind of satisfaction, dedication and completeness in her eyes which we don’t have.

I've only these two examples, but I am sure there are many more daughters who have put their parents first above anything. Some say, only lucky people are blessed by a daughter. I am also a daughter and I always get feeling that if I am doing everything right for my parents or not. I really fear for the day when I have to leave my parents. I fear that if they will be al-right? If they will be happy?

On this era when numbers of old age home are drastically increasing these daughters really makes us proud, teach us, motivate us and remind us our duty towards the persons who are our priority! These daughters are the lesson for those people who think daughters can't do anything and kill them in womb.

I Heartily salute these true daughters!

Do you know any of daughter who put their parents first? Do share with me! 

Belated HAPPY DAUGHTERS DAY TO ALL !!!! 

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Website Review - Adviceadda.com

Adviceadda.com – a friend in need is a friend indeed! 

Introduction:

Advice, it is one thing which we need to seek on every step. Like they say ‘it’s a free advice, take it’, ‘free advice is harmful’ so Many a time this free advice can spoil you. But what will happen when you get precious and analyzed advice from the expert panel without spending a penny. Astonished! Am I right? Here comes the role of Adviceadda.com where you can get advice on almost every micro and macro problem.

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In my opinion, giving advice is not so easy. You have to evaluate the pros and cons of the condition. So many of us boycott giving advice to anyone. During this era where people do not have time to communicate it seems very hard to get the honest advice from anyone.

Why you need Adviceadda.com?

Humans are one of the complex species on earth. Their emotion, situations, and behavior are unpredictable.  They can be happy for one moment and on the next moment they can be sad. Just like our behavior our life is unpredictable. We have to face many complex things in life where we feel we don’t have any option further or we feel like we are stuck somewhere and there is no chance get over from this. In this virtual world, there are handful people on which we trust! So no chance to share our problem to them.

Let your problem be the small but you are feeling suffocated, helpless and can’t even discuss with your handful friends. This small seed of problem led to a fatal situation of depression. I don't think I need to elaborate what depression is.

To solve unsaid problems of human emotion is the ideology of Adviceadda.com. The founder of this amazing portal, the eminent journalist Vivek Satya Mitram believe in forming a better society.  This website is efficient thought of him to provide you accurate and valuable piece of advice. So that you will not become the slave of your own thought, life, and problems.

Key features of Adviceadda.com:

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Apart from expert advice, you can also read many useful articles which are apt for your day to day life. Like beauty hacks, tips of grooming, career option, relationship tips and what not! These articles are written with lots of research so again no fear of wrong advice.

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People feel shy when they have to share a problem, but here you don’t need to reveal your name and can easily get valuable advice.

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The advice needs to reach you on a very crucial moment and they know this. So here you’ll get a quick response for your problem.

Final verdict:

 Honestly saying there was many of the event occurred in my life where I find myself helpless   and felt like there is no remedy to this situation. I think I am not alone. I try to share it with my friends, they tried to give me the best solution but how many times can I tell them?  They are human too! So I stopped sharing my problem but this will not help me come out from the marsh.

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Much needed discussion

Infertility- is woman sole reason? 

Infertility is the much-discussed topic so today I thought to weave my opinion and perception on this issue.  

Infertility can be simply defined as where a couple fails to conceive baby because of some internal, I mean some biological issue. Generally we called it ‘koi to kami hai’, many a time this ‘Koi kami’ happens to be in a woman only.

When a man woman marries, barely in one or two-year family members start asking them, ‘when you will give us grandchild’. I know people has much emotion attached towards grandchild so they keep asking. But many a time when a couple fails to conceive the whole family start blaming the woman.

I think we all are that much educated that we know a woman is always not a cause of infertility, man can also be the reason may be low or weak sperm count. But unfortunately, the whole responsibility is bang in the name of a woman. She is the reason, of infertility.

II have one friend who is married from the past 5 years. Her marriage was a love marriage. They fail to conceive in spite of numerous check-ups, medicine and what not! So without knowing the feeling of her daughter – in – law the Mother- in –law suggested her son to leave his wife and remarry. She has even forced her by so called promise. Here luckily, my friend’s husband told his mum that he is not going to leave his wife under any circumstances.

Another lady who is married for about 15 years doesn't have a child. Initially, her family tried to blame her for not having kids but later on they got found that the reason is the man, so they kept mum. What an irony! if a woman is a reason she would have shooed away from the house but if the man is reason woman have to advise to do not open her mouth about the ‘Kami’ in her man.

In the ancient era, the king has four to five queen where he would love more to that queen which has a son and least love to those who don’t have a child.  So no wonders! Why this rule is still followed by the people!

There was an elderly couple living in our area and they don’t have child. So once my dad asked to the uncle, ‘’what the reason you didn’t have child?’’  He said, ‘’my wife has some complication in uterus, doctor has advised if you’ll try for child you can lose her and we have to remove the uterus. So I told them I want my wife I don’t want kids.’’ He also said that his mother advised him to leave her and remarry but she chose his wife. This is the beautiful example and I always has best respect for him.

I think we need to educate the older people whose mind is still caged with the traditional practices. There is no shame if you can’t conceive, there could be problem. Yes! We all are not same.  I think the uncle who choose her wife over kids are the best example! If you are suffering from this situation and your in laws are blaming then you can simply tell them that all these things are natural. I am not responsible for this, you need to stand on what is right and what is wrong!

For men, who thinks that low sperm count will question to his masculinity are totally wrong. There are many reason which are responsible for this and it has nothing to do with your macho image.

Many a time woman cut our communication with society because she is always questioned why she is not having kids!  An ideal society is that which accept the weakness of people and motivate them to leave life fullest but India is somehow lacking behind this.

I think we should embrace such people motivate them that your life never ends on this, you have many more amazing things to do. It’s my request to the people out there if you can’t help anyone you don’t have right to pinpoint the pity of someone.  

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